Self-love is something that makes you feel good. You loving yourself is important because at some point in life it affects how you live with others, what you eat, even how you cope with life. Self- love puts you in your right state of mind and makes you know yourself better. The goal is to make yourself feel good at all times.
What is self-love?         Â
Self-love starts from within. One should be ready to appreciate the little things happening in life.
Living an extravagant lifestyle may make one feel good but again one can lack self-love with all of it. Self-love entails having a positive attitude, good energy, and trying new things or ideas.
It is also about accepting growth from within. This helps one gain the courage to tackle different circumstances that may occur in life. It takes time to build self-love. These are some tips that can help you develop self-love.
Put yourself first
Mind what you feel, want, and know. People’s opinions will always be there, some to put you down and others to praise you but it is important to listen to yourself first before listening to others. Love yourself more always.
Know what’s important for you
Needs are usually important than wants.
Some things or behaviors might make us feel good but sometimes they are not important. We should always choose things that add value to our lives and walk away from things that make our life stagnant.
Wants might waste your time and money and you feel good for some time only to fade away quickly. Things that last tend to always bring good memories and keep you happy.
Take good care of yourself
It is important to mind our health bet it spiritual, physical, social, or mental health. Mind who you are with, what you do and what it impacts in your life. Mind what you eat or take, often listen to your body, and have proper sleep.
Know what you want
Sometimes NO is a good answer. Put limits on things that don’t make you feel comfortable. Anything that affects your well-being can easily affect your self-love. Some life responsibilities may take away your time and energy, just know to do it and take it easy with yourself.
Give yourself space
Protect yourself from people who don’t let you grow and mind who you invite to your life. Peer pressure from friends can easily change your life. Don’t waste your time on people who never like it when you succeed or grow, be it, friends or family.
Learn to let go
We learn from our mistakes. Mistakes should never be our downfall at any given chance. Learn to accept and move on and be careful not to repeat the same mistakes. Be accountable for your mistakes, acknowledge what you did and be patient with yourself.
Know your purpose
Set goals in life and be determined to achieve them. Be open-minded and open to trying new things/ideas. You will love yourself more when you see yourself achieving what you’ve always wanted. Learn to express yourself freely and never be afraid of failing.
Listen to yourself
Emotional health is important. Always listen to what your brain and heart are communicating to you. Ignorance from what you feel might, later on, lead to frustrations and disappointment. Appreciate emotions and take time to understand what message your emotions are trying to pass.
Instead of fighting your emotions, learn how your body reacts in certain situations and always take it easy. Also, be positive with your thinking and talking.
Self-awareness can boost your confidence. Be able to identify and acknowledge your uniqueness. Be it beauty, fame, kindness or any other thing, use it and love yourself the way you are.
In the next article we will explore the importance of self love and how to cultivate a loving relationship with our own self and others.